Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Birthday Trip to Austin

For Erik's birthday, we took a trip to Austin and spent time visiting family.

The first night we were with his brother's family.  Their kids are so awesome and play so well and accept our kids so easily!  It was high time that we caught up with one another.  Saturday, we had the chance to see two Clara and Cecianna play in a soccer game!  Since then, soccer has been the #1 sport played in our backyard . . . Evy takes turns assigning who is supposed to be the "blocker."  (Clara played goalie for much of the game that we saw.)

The second part of our trip we spent with Pa and Nana.  We had a great time talking and eating with them . . .and playing TREASURE HUNT with maps and clues "and everything"!  Ahw, yeah!

Lots of walks and touring the outdoors and even the expansive garden with STRAW-BIRDIES (strawberries)!








(Merritt got a little bit of a boo-boo but rallied to finish the hunt . . . and EAT icecream!)

While in Austin, we spent our time visiting family . . . but did make a stop to try out the legendary Round Rock doughnuts  . . .  don't know how we lived in Austin all that time and never tried them.  And, the doughnuts were HUGE!

To finish out the trip, halfway home, we stopped by my sister's place for DELICIOUS dinner and playing!  A great way to break up the drive home.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Chills and Thrills


It was a busy but fun week.  Erik was in Minnesota . . . and the time seemed to crawl and fly by in tandem.

Evy's school is finished for now. We'll see where we are in the fall to decide what we'll do about anymore preschool.  He doesn't start Kinder until Fall of 2012.

Merritt is finally off the nebulizer for now.  Those treatments still wear us out.

My lesson on Sunday is over.  And, I am glad for that one.

We are lucky enough to have friends that are the same ages as my boys and we played today with some of them.  So fun to have them over.  And, I love the Mom, too!

Nothing of huge importance right now.  Just typical life stuff like changing insurance, wondering why our grass isn't growing, trying not to wince at each medical bill that comes, figuring out how to keep the bunnies out of the garden, and making sure we don't mess up our kids.

In all, we are blessed with healthy children, a solid community to live in, and a great job.  We are grateful!

Evy's Last Day at Preschool

Evy really enjoys his one day at his museum preschool.  For a couple of hours they talk about nature, go on hikes, have an animal visitor (favorites were the blue tongued lizard and the flying squirrel), and really learn many things about the world that I think are important to know.  He is much more intune with even the right vocabulary in naming things around him than I was at that age.

On the last day, they have a family celebration.  Merritt is able to join in for short periods of time.  (he feels that they just don't move around enough so we usually escape and go on a walk during class)



Thankfully, Erik was back from Minnesota in time to come for the fun!

As a note:  I brought cupcakes intending to buy them at the store . . . the ones with all the icing and sprinkes, except the day before the party the store only had the horrible looking "Easter" cupcakes . . . sigh . . .

So, I took a stab at the cupcakes and they turned out WAY better than I thought they would.  Whew!



Erik's Surprise Birthday Party

It is hard to keep things from Erik, especially suprise parties.

Two big hurdles for this party:
1) I am doing it all by myself .  .  . the prep, cleaning, cooking, etc. with my two helpers, and can't let on to Erik that anything is going on, and
2) He got baseball tickets for the night of the surprise party and I had to convince him that it wasn't a night to go to a game . . .

After that, it was a blast!




We had cobbler!



Merritt pushed kids around in the car.



We celebrated Erik's Birthday for over a week before the Surprise party.



And, we must have performed a rousing rendition of the Happy Birthday song with "fire and candles" every evening.  For simplicity's sake, I used the same cake.


Eating with clown noses seemed a fun idea at first.  Very, very hard to eat with your nose pinched closed.




We did celebrate with several "40s" . . . like 40 cupcakes that Erik took to work.


Carrot cake, the BEST ever!


Pumpkin cake

Erik also received gifts every day for a week.  I even planned ahead and left behind some gifts he could open when I was out of town.  (I KNOW, sometimes, I'm amazing.)

Erik, We Love You!

In the Sunshine

A couple weekends ago, we played at the park with one of our favorite friends.  These are pictures from that day.










Saturday, April 23, 2011

Happy Easter

I've been immersed in Easter for several weeks as I fulfill my callings for church in preparation for tomorrow.

Most notably, I'll be teaching a lesson in our women's group, Relief Society, that will focus on temple work, the Atonement, and the Resurrection.  As I prepared for this lesson, I found I couldn't read enough or study enough on the subjects and how they intersect.  I found myself referring to tens of articles instead of just a couple when clarifying my thoughts enough to prepare for our discussion on Sunday.

Everett is at an age where we can talk about Easter and Jesus in real terms.

It has been a marvelous couple of weeks going through this preparation.

I wanted to share a couple of things.

1) One of my favorite images of Christ.  It was done by Heinrich Hofman whose portraits of Christ are one of the most widely reproduced.  More than likely, if you have pictures of Christ in your home, you probably have one done by him.


2)  Elder Wirthlin gave an address in October 2006 touching on these concepts. After everything that I have read and watched, the hope he communicates, a fuller measure of an understanding of perspective, his words stand out in my mind.  Sunday Will Come-a short clip, Sunday Will Come-his full address.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

In Review

This marks my 6th year of blogging.

In a week or so, I'll hit the 1,000th post.

It, overall, has been a positive experience.

I blog now mainly about daily life and our boys.

I have blogged about infertility struggles and a couple of opinionated rants.

I try and keep politics out of this blog.  I don't think the place for that is here.

I don't blog about everything in my life.  Some stuff just isn't for the masses.

I will never put adds on this blog.  That is not the purpose for my writing.

I enjoy writing.  I always have.  Someday, if I write enough and make space for reflection and critique on that writing, I may even develop a knack for it.  Someday.

Blogging is an intersection for journaling and scrapbooking for me.  I was always a journal-er and somewhat of a scrapbook-er.  It is nice that I can combine my penchant for wordiness with pictures.

Sometimes I agonize over word choice.  Sometimes I am lucky that posts have fewer than 3 misspelled words.  (blogger spellcheck has a few more versions to go before being sufficient for my needs)

The nice thing about having several posts archived to read is that I get to reflect on how my thinking has changed, and also hasn't changed.  I see how much I have grown, how my kids have changed, and how most things do turn out for the better.

I think I'll keep doing it a little while longer.

Today's Random Tidbits

Everett is totally into the circle of life stuff with what animal eats what animal, which are dangerous, etc.  Which is AWESOME until he will NOT stop talking about the hunting and eating habits of the lion at the dinner table, particularly around the cheetah-prey, at EVERY meal.  (I'm sure that this is probably little beans compared to what will end up discussed at the table when he is older.)
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I've been trying to encourage Merritt to take his turn saying prayers, which means I am trying to encourage him to repeat us when we help him.  This has not gone very successfully until today. Talking is difficult for him and he knows it.  This evening, I had both Everett and Merritt repeat the parts of the prayer . . . and Merritt got up the courage to try and repeat some of the words.  I was very excited for him because usually helping him try to say words goes like this:

Mom:  (after Merritt motions that he wants more cheese)  Do you want more cheese or water?
Merritt:  eeese
Mom:  Say, more cheese please.
Merritt:  (cheerfully)  Uh-huh!
Mom:  More cheese please.
Merritt:  (cheerfully)  Uh-huh!

(I can just see him thinking, "you got it, Mom, now quit talking and get the cheese already")
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So far this Spring, we have not had any wasps IN the house.  I think it is because we had that huge, word burning, and all day fire when the electricity went out.  They are coming back to the house, like wasps do, but instead of swarming in the chimney, they are making nests all around the perimeter of the home.  To date:  8 nests.  Thanks to Terminex and Erik, the nests have been destroyed.
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I don't know about anybody else, but my insurance benefits (which I am ever so grateful to have) constantly confuse me.  It seems like I call the insurance company about every office visit, hospitalization, or blood test.  I am sure that they have a running record of each time I call and say,"Okay, I need some client education.  What does ___ mean?"  But, you know what, they are so patient with me.  I love that.
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Today, at nap time, I hear Merritt saying mutedly,"Help, help, help, help."

At first I think, "well, he could just be trying to escape nap time."

But, I went in and saw that in an effort to take off his shirt, it was caught on his head, across his eyes.  He couldn't get it off or back on   . . .  he really did need help.
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This evening, about an hour after he was supposed to be asleep, he is talking to himself right by his bedroom door.

I go over to ask him to go to bed and stop kicking the door.  I discover that he is as naked as any boy could be.  He had, in the dark, figured out my duct tape trick, removing the diaper and reveling in the glory of being in his birthday suit.

NO, I don't know what I'll do next.  I do not enjoy cleaning up pee beds when the diaper could have worked just as well.
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It was like 94 degrees today.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Chills and Thrills


Chills
Our war with the wasps and ants has begun. 
Lots of medical bills
Lawnmower blade--Bent.

Thrills
Our talks in church are over!
Evy is showing signs of improvement with the side-effects.
Merritt added "hungry" to his vocabulary and had a GREAT week with listening.
Sheila found a motivating way to reinforce Merritt's good behavior!
We got to see Aunt Connie!
Our rabbit fence is working.

Everett finishes his semester at The Heard this week.  It was another great experience for him!  This past week they went on their LONG hike and his class did really well.  Evy took a tumble at the very end, but no bleeding.  So, in all, it was a major success!

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Grrr!

Today I picked up Everett's medicine from the pharmacy.  It will be the second month that he is on this new medication.  Although this medication is less harmful to his body, the side effects are just not nice.

I've been taking them in stride.  Doing what I can to help Everett, minimizing the invasiveness of some of the side effects.

When I picked up the medicine, the pharmacist asked how it was going . . . and it just hit me how 'not easy' it is going.  I briefly listed a couple of the problems.  He reminded me that behavior changes are most likely due to the medication . . . and I realized that this is not going to get easier.  I am not sure if it is good or not that I am incrementally recognizing the scope of all of this.  I just try to take it one piece at a time and ignore what I can't control.

Evy can be paranoid, bordering on obsession with the items he is paranoid about.  He has a finger tick/flick thing going on . . . he is crankier and the medication causes nausea, he experiences acid reflux on it--sometimes with vomiting, and he gets rather violent hiccups every day.  (which he hates and then becomes paranoid that the hiccups will hurt his body, and he doesn't understand why things are so different for him)  And, his run is much more "clumsy" looking; he just is not as coordinated on this.

There is nothing that can quickly be done about these things.  You tell the doctor.  Wait to see what he says.  Manage the symptoms so that they invade our lives as little as possible.  Teach Everett about what is going on with his body.

I do think that the medication is controlling his seizures for the most part . . . there are still those times when he falls and I can't see why that I wonder if it was seizure related.

I am grateful that the pharmacist took the time to ask questions and help problemsolve.  I am grateful for a husband to that is open to problemsolving in the middle of the day when I have to make a decision.  I am grateful that the level of fatigue has decreased a bit for him.  He still prefers to lay down on the couch rather than run around, but I'll take whatever progress happens.

We are doing as well as we can.  I sure am grateful for our Everett. 

Recently, he has taken to pretending that his "baby chicks are hatching."  He'll make fists out of his hands and open them slowly, making soft cracking sounds as if the eggshells were cracking in his hands.  "See the baby chicks!"

Monday, April 11, 2011

Chills and Thrills


Hoot and Holla, it has been a week!

Erik:  Work is extremely busy and so was my BIRTHDAY!

Sheila:  Busy with the boys, my church callings, planning a family reunion, and Erik's BIRTHDAY!

Evy:  I'm not a secret keeper, but I kept my dad's surprise party a SECRET!

Merritt:  Whale. (his new word)

We are trying to spend as much time with Erik as possible before he starts traveling again.  Each day we had a small birthday surprise for him.  We had a great time taking him to lunch for this birthday (a couple of times).  We also visited family in Austin this weekend for his birthday.  The final act of birthday celebration was a surprise party.  We'll share pictures later.

I finally replanted the garden, and Erik put up the rabbit fence.

The boys are growing by leaps and bounds.

I'm exhausted, but it is from doing good things as we are busy with worthwhile activities.

This Sunday, we are giving talks at our church. 

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

Merritt, Merritt

One of the words that Merritt says most frequently is "meh" . . . meaning mess.  Cracks me up!  Mom, I made a mess.  Mom, I am a mess.  Mom, that is a mess.  Mom, you made a mess.  All totally true.

His single syllable words are coming along and I can get a two word phrase out of him around once a day.  He primarily uses only vowel sounds.  So, I still use a ton of context clues as to what is going on around and I try to teach Erik the translations when he is around.

Right now, Merritt has a cold.  Poor baby.

He loves playing with cars.  While in the bathroom earlier, he attacked some cars with a dinosaur and the scene went like this:

Merritt:  ROAR (attacking cars with dinosaurs)
Merritt:  Owie (the cars reply back to the dinosaurs)

He runs for the bathroom when it is time to brush his teeth.  And, he isn't shy about brushing his teeth with his toothbrush and Evy's toothbrush.  Variety is the spice of life, right?

He loves running, chasing, climbing, and crashing trains. Everyone gets a nice HI and BYE from him, and if he likes you really, well he'll give you a kiss.

He doesn't do time out and he thinks it is hilarious when mom starts counting.

Shoes are optional once they are on, but if everyone else is getting them on, he goes for the shoes that are nearest to him.

The first person he looks for in the morning is his dad.  "Daee?"

He has never met a fry he hasn't scarfed down quickly.

Popcorn is the first food of choice.  Fruit treats follow a close second. 

He becomes very concerned when Everett gets hurt,"Ewee, owie?"

The following pictures were taken by a friend of mine while she watched him as the rest of us were helping Evy in the hospital.  And, yes, that is the most patient dog on the planet.


Girl Weekend Away

I recently took a short trip to visit my sister and then traveled to check out a place for a family reunion with my sister, Mandy, and my parents.  It was awesome.  I ate at some of my favorites like Ken's Doughnuts & Eastside Cafe, and I visited the UT Coop which looks nothing like it did when I was an undergrad.

I started my "Girl Weekend Away" by crashing a Murder Mystery Party (really, the hostess knew I would be in town visiting my sister, and was SUPER nice to include me in the fun as well).

It was a SuperHero Murder Mystery Party.

My identity. 

I was POGO Girl who had used a super-prototype Pogo stick that heightened my own skills into super human powers.  A.W.E.S.O.M.E.


The Jester, Blue Blaze (the murderer), and
Pogo Girl (lucky to escape with my life)

Did you notice the boots?  Go back and look.

They are old boots and the leather had been eaten up by salt (from salted sidewalks back East).  I refurbished them with duct tape.  Impressed?  I KNOW! (I have to tape myself into them and then cut myself out of them when I am done wearing them.)

Did you notice my hair?  Go back and look.

It is a slinky.  I KNOW!

And the cape?  I borrowed it from Everett.  Thanks, Aunt Elise!

Erik did a great job keeping the homefront at peace; he even further Merritt proofed our house while I was gone.

Thanks, Erik!


First Flight

Everett flew his first kite just over a week ago.  It was a perfect super windy day and we were at the park for a birthday party.

HE LOVED IT!!




He was a pro at getting the kite up, getting it higher and higher, and crashing it.  It was so much fun to watch (while I ran around chasing Merritt).

Monday, April 04, 2011

State of the Neurons: Update on Robot Man Post EEG


This is Evy sleeping.  He does that a. l. o. t. now.

Just over a week ago, we had the follow-up appointment with Everett's neurologist.  I pretty much thought it would be a routine thing.  I would get to complain about how lethargic Evy is on the medication, he would give his recommendation, and then we would go our merry way and see him again in another 3 months.  Nope.

We came to find out with the EEG that he was having breakthrough seizure activity on the old medicine ... though overall frequency has lowered. 

Because he was still having break through seizure activity on the super strong old medicine (as shown on the EEG), the neurologist is concerned that it indicates a higher chance that his condition is prone to long-term seizure activity. He wants to make sure that the meds Evy has now minimizes activity by 100% . . . with no break through activity. If we do that, then the chance is greater that the gene that is causing this will become dormant.


The old medicine did control the seizures for the most part, but it did not completely control all seizure activity. I think that it may be hard to understand how he could be having seizure activity without any of us realizing it; it helps to remember that Evy's typical seizures were very short absent seizures. Some were short enough for me to not see but were long enough to jar him into falling.

Because the overall number of times he was having seizures has decreased and because the old medicine was really hard on him and is difficult to pair with other medicines designed to control seizures, he was put on a safer medicine that works well if it is necessary to be with others.

The doctor's#1 theory right now is that this is genetic.  No, neither Erik or I have oral or written medical histories that anyone in our families had seizures.

So, he is on his new meds for several weeks to get the dosage in his body to a therapeutic level and in mid-May he will have an outpatient EEG to see if an additional medication is needed for 0% seizure activity as detected by the EEG.  Robot Man will be in full outfit, once again.

If another medication is needed, we'll put him on it and repeat the EEG after a few more weeks.

Since last week, there were a couple of times when he has fallen and doesn't understand why. I am hoping that in a couple of weeks I no longer see that.

His new medicine makes him very lethargic, slightly cranky and appetite whonky. The doctor said that should diminish in a couple of weeks.  So far, that hasn't really happened.  We'll go to the playground and all he wants to do is lay down on the ground.
In all, the news could be better, but we are grateful to have better information, a less dangerous medication, the hope that he could still outgrow this, and data that he is having fewer seizures.

At the follow-up appointment, the doctor was an hour and a half late.  I had both boys with me, and I was able to entertain them and keep good vibes going.  (Granted I was worn out by the time the doctor actually arrived, but it could have been WAY worse.)

As the doctor was leaving the exam room after explaining everything and being questioned by me, he said,"You are really patient."

I about dropped to the floor because PATIENCE would not be, what I would list, in my top 5 virtues.  He then went on to explain how I was so patient through the hospitalization and waiting for news and how patient I had been that morning with his tardiness and with managing my boys.

No one ever compliments the mom.  It was nice to see that someone noticed the effort I had been putting into the situation.

We ended our follow-up with an unexpected blood draw.  Typically, when Evy has a blood draw coming up, we prep.  We remind him of how it hasn't been bad before in the lab, we bring a Medic Dino, etc.  However, while in the hospital for his video EEG, the technicians went all out and did a full body restraint to take his blood (I think it was completely unnecessary, but they were doing it and the damage had been done before I could intervene).  So, hearing blood draw put Everett into full panic mode.

I was tearing eyed when leaving the lab after it all, so choked up I had a hard time hiding it from Everett.  The absolute blood curdling screaming that he let loose during the blood draw combined with the new lacklustery news was overwhelming.

No, the seizures do not hurt him.  They do, if not controlled, decrease his intellectual capability.  And, if they aren't controlled, they may prevent him from overcoming the seizure disorder completely.

For now, we try to keep him feeling upbeat even though he is tired all of the time.  We watch for seizure activity.  We pray that this plan will be what he needs to fully heal his brain.

***Note:  One of the most important lessons I have learned through all this is that the EEG is just a snapshot of the brain's activity.  The EEG can be administered and not pick up any seizure activity.  But, that just means that while the patient was having the EEG, there was no seizure activity.  It does not mean that the patient does not have any seizure activity at all.  I wish that the first pediatric neurologist had more clearly explained this to me.   This is why we were in the hospital for 3 days with the video EEG; the doctor wanted a longer snapshot to get a more detailed pictures of what was happening.  It is not unusual for patients to be in the hospital for up to 10 days with the video EEG, so that the neurologist can get a true sense of the seizure activity.

Chills and Thrills


And so it goes . . . .

Time that is. 

Erik is back from another trip.  This time to Italy.  Maybe he'll post some pictures with some of his stories on his forgotten blog.  He had a great time working and learning about Italy.  Venice was a highlight.

Since he has been back, he has been busy.  He fixed the sprinkler system.  Gave Sheila a "Girl Out of Town" respite (she went and traveled with her sister and parents to Central Texas this past weekend).  Helped with the final repair coordination of our car.  It died a painful and expensive death.  The upside is that it should run for a long, long time; at least we told it to as we explained to The Car that we chose to resurrect it's life rather than buying a new one (by a narrow margin). 

We have more news on Everett's seizures.  Not great news, but more news.  I'll post soon on that.

Merritt is really doing well learning new words.  I think that having the speech therapist really helps Sheila help him, which is what it is all about at his age.

We now have the opportunity to redo the garden (it was demolished when we had to fix the sprinkler system). 

A leprecaun came and visited us on St.Patrick's Day.  That visit resulted in Everett planning for several days on how to catch the green fairy.  Some of the ideas were actually pretty good.  Maybe a future crime solver, criminal catcher!  He turned many things green and left lots of gold for us to find.



This week, we SHOUT and Celebrate Erik's 40th Birthday.  We've been having a great time figuring out surprises, gifts, and treats.  Today, we delivered 40 cupcakes.

Carrot Cake and Pumpkin Cake Cupcakes

Sheila still limps around with a sprain.  It has been over a month now.  Someday, she may seek medical help, maybe.  She is kind of attitudinal about it because she is tired of going to doctors and getting x-rays, etc.